Stepping Stones

For years I have wrote on this blog about relationships and waiting and searching for that future spouse. Yes, I understood it wasn't an easy road to follow but I guess that there was still some naivety in my thoughts. I guess I didn't address or even think about entering a relationship with someone. I guess in my thought process I just thought God would place that person in your life; you would court them and have a perfect chapter of the love story each day with smiles on every page. I’m realizing now that it is never going to be like that. There is an obvious reason for that, it’s because that perfect love we are searching for isn’t found in another human it is found in God alone. That smile of every page is when we get to heaven because we live in a world full of sin and we are not perfect.

Where is this thought process going? Well I guess it is a realization that maybe I should have had many years ago that there is a stepping stone between friendship and marriage. It is a relationship and I guess there is more than one stepping stone because in a relationship there are hurdles that the couple encounters. For the couple to reach the next stepping stone they have to work together to tackle it. The consequences of not tackling the hurdle together would either mean the couple doesn’t move from the stone they are on, meaning they aren’t moving deeper into their relationship. Or, they fall off the stone because they lose balance causing an end to the relationship and friendship, or hopefully they make the joint decision to walk back to the foundation they had in place at the beginning, known as the friendship, which means they can both be happy in the decision they made. This decision may open the opportunity for the couple to get back together in the future if God agrees.

It is unfair for a guy/girl to enter a relationship with someone and believe everything is going to be perfect. That thought process will only lead to disappointment and upset. I used to think being in a relationship would be easier than being single. I was mistaken, I had the wrong perspective. It’s not the idea that life gets easier when in a relationship, instead it’s that life becomes different because there is someone else you have to think about. It’s not easier or harder, it’s just different. There are different thought processes than when you are single and different concerns and worries. Also though there are different joys and happiness as you get to learn about that special someone and share your life with them. But there are also different joys and happiness when someone is single like having time to learn about you and investing into more friendships. I guess I just want to encourage single people out there not to crave and desire over being in a relationship. I know I used to do it but it wasn’t until I properly lived my single life with joy and contentment that I felt satisfied and at peace.

So, allow God to use the season of life you are in to shape you into the perfection of Jesus Christ...and remember if you are on those stepping stones with a partner or by yourself remember that God is there guiding the way. With every spiritual hurdle, allow your relationship with God to deepen where that final stone is heaven, the marriage of Christ and the Church.

School placement over!

Three tiring weeks later and placement is finished. Sadly there are still three assignments to write before I can actually retire from my first year at Uni. I'm so tired at the moment though from waking up at 6am for passed three weeks. I feel I need to catch up on it but tomorrow I need to get my phone fixed. Yeh my Nokia is being a pain, it keeps turning itself off and keeps losing it's memory and then getting it back again. There are too many stressors at the moment, can't be having the phone being part of the list.

On an up note, this summer I'll be going away for a few days to Cornwall with my friends at Uni in the CU. Hopefully learn how to surf and soak up at tan! Two weeks ago we had lovely weather where I began to catch the sun and started looking healthier again but it soon hid away, and with it, so did my tan.

Anyway, I must catch up on sleep before the evening starts. Tomorrow I'm going bowling with my friends and at some point start writing my essays.

Bon Nuit!

Lucky - By Jason Mraz ft. Colbie Caillat

Do you hear me? I'm talking to you,
Across the water across the deep blue ocean
Under the open sky oh my, baby I'm trying
Yeah I hear you in my dreams I hear your whisper across the sea
I keep you with me in my heart
You make it easier when life gets hard

I'm lucky I'm in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
Oooohhhhoohhhhohhooohhooohhooohoooh

They don't know how long it takes
Waiting for a love like this
Every time we say goodbye
I wish we had one more kiss
I wait for you I promise you, I will

I'm lucky I'm in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
I'm lucky we're in love every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday

And so I'm sailing through the sea
To an island where we'll meet
You'll hear the music, fill the air
I put a flower in your hair
And though the breeze is through the trees
Move so pretty you're all I see
Let the world keep spinning round
You hold me right here right now

I'm lucky I'm in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
I'm lucky we're in love every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday

Ooohh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh
Ooooh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh

Silent Lightning

Last night I gazed out my window to see if I could see the stars. As I scanned the clear night sky I noticed sudden flashes of light in the distance. It lit up the sky so well and it seemed to changed the sky from night to day with just a flash of light. This continued for a while and there was no noise before or after to make me think it was thunder and lightning. So we researched online to see if there was any such thing called silent lightning. Apparently there is and it is called 'heat lightning' which is an eerily silent flash that often lights clouds in thunderstorms. It normally occurs on hot sumer nights which would make sense after the week of hot weather we've had.

Incase you're a fan of the wiki, heres a link.